Sometimes we don’t give ourself permission to make decisions and take actions towards what we want because we are afraid that we will be stuck with it forever. There are so many ways this gets ingrained into our consciousness:
You made your bed, you lie in it.
You can’t unring a bell.
In for a penny, in for a pound.
That ship has sailed.
The pressure is that if you take action and it doesn’t work out or doesn’t make you happy, you don’t get to change your mind. You won’t get another chance if you don’t act now. You just have to bear with the repercussions of that situation forever and ever. But of course you get to change your mind or course! Actually sometimes you must.
First we need to remember that nothing is forever, even the things we really want to be. So reminding ourselves that being attached to the idea that our choices are permanent is a little tricksy mind moment. A decision is not eternal! Reassure yourself as needed.
Secondly, of course you get to change your mind! Wants, circumstances, etc change all the time. Giving yourself permission to go all in on something for now does not mean in 20 minutes or 20 years you still have to do that. You get to keep deciding.
And lastly, being stuck to a decision from the past that no longer resonates takes you out of the present moment and present circumstances. Nothing moves in any direction from there. It might have been a great choice then. But is it now? You are choosing your life in so many ways* every moment whether you are doing it consciously or not. Reaffirm that choice or make another one. Learn to listen to the niggles that are asking you to look at your decisions and take stock with how things are now.
So whether you are keeping yourself from making some new choices because you are afraid that’s the only one you get, or you are struggling inside previous choices that no longer take you towards the life you want remember you can change your mind.
You’ve got this.
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*Not all things are your choice. We live in a complex world full of systems that like to feed off other people. But there are some things we get to have a say over and those are the moments to embrace consciously and create from.
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