You aren't going to succeed at the thing you don't want.

Hiding the truth from yourself delays everything.

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Sometimes the thing you need most to figure out is clarity about what you really want.

I have had some wonderful, gifted clients who actually figured out that they hadn’t been being honest with themselves about what they wanted. They thought they wanted to build huge businesses (it’s so mythologized how easy it is to build them on the internet). They thought there was something wrong with them when they avoided the work or resented their clients. They thought when they charged more or made more each month that it would all be ok.

Sometimes there isn’t enough money in the world to be convinced to do the work.

In reality they didn’t want to do it.

They didn’t want to run a business, or at least this business right now. It doesn’t mean their work wasn’t valuable and didn’t help other people. It really did. But even that still can’t make you show up with joy and persistence if it’s not what you want. When she finally admitted she didn’t really want to do it she thought she had lost. But in reality it was such a huge win! I celebrated her.

The lightness that comes from setting the wrong (for right now, maybe forever) thing down and figuring out what you actually want to do and build will change everything. You aren’t really going to succeed at the thing you don’t want to do anyway. It’s ok to take what you know and switch destinations.

One of my favourite clients talked about the Resiliency Club sessions as just a relief to talk things over, out loud, outside their own thoughts with someone who gets it. There is such a powerful alchemy that happens when thoughts get said out loud. They can become more true or get rejected easier. You get to feel it in your body when someone says it back to you or responds. Every time it is a step towards clarity about what you want.

You’ve got this

Susie

PS. If you want me to be the person who you talk to about your goals, business, and desires check out Resiliency Club or shoot me a message so we can discuss what might be right for you. If you want some quick help learning how to figure out what you want and take action check out my short audio course How to Give Yourself Permission.