What to do when you are feeling stuck.
A trick for making choices.
What do we create, even if we do nothing?
A choice.
I wrote most of my pieces about Permission, (A Little Book of Permission, How to Give Yourself Permission Audio Session) at a time when I was beginning to claim the personal sovereignty in my life. A lot of things had happened to me and happened for me, and I was ready to give myself some credit and take some responsibility too. I realised that until I could recognize that we have choices in many situations as adults, I couldn’t really do either.
As a rebellious person I never have done well with people telling me I have to do something. So in order to understand that I had choices I found it easier to start with the options I would never do and actually claim that as a choice. People literally do the worst things all the time. It is a choice that you would never do it—whether that’s letting someone suffer or pushing a stranger.
Understanding that I rejected options that technically exist created a spaciousness I hadn’t felt before. And at the same time helped me be more committed and responsible for the choices I was making. I don’t have to go over and help my older family members, I choose to and that just lands differently. When you are feeling stuck make a list of the things that you don’t have to do. It opens space for the things that you want to do to be heard a little more easily.
I think the more things matter to us the more likely we are to forget how many choices we really have.
That’s why when you are creating or running the business you have always wanted to you can freeze up and stop taking the action you need to. That’s why I created Resiliency Club Sessions—because talking it through with someone experienced and exclusively on your team can help you catalogue your options and make your choices from a stronger and calmer position.
Only 5 people can join me in January for three months of one-to-one support. If that resonates check it all out here or send me a message to discuss.
Susie
